I have not been my best self this past week.
We have the staging of PYPx coming up and as a result, all of our time and energy has been spent supporting students to plan for and create a symbolic piece that represents their journey as a learner and stimulate conversation with whomever shall visit their display. (more on that later)
I’ve been overwhelmed, wrapped up, anxious and frazzled.
And it must have been showing because today a student came up and asked me…
“Miss Taryn are you in a bad mood?”
So, I had to answer honestly…
“Yeah, you know what – I am. I feel anxious and stressed and concerned.”
So she kindly followed up with…
And so I shared my worries…
“I’m worried that my students aren’t putting in enough time and effort to get ready for the staging of PYPx. I’m worried that their parents and the community are going to be disappointed in what they produce. I’m worried that they won’t reach their level of success by May 22. I’m worried they aren’t using their time management, planning or organizational skills to their full extent. I’m worried they might not be holding themselves to a high enough standard…”
And her response was so clear. So kind. So simple. So true…
“Miss Taryn, you have to trust your students.”
Trust my students…
She was right. That was the piece of the puzzle I had been missing. I had been guiding, encouraging, advising, helping… but not trusting.
I had gotten so caught up in worrying about how everything was going to look and be perceived by others, that I had lost sight of the big picture. That even though this was the destination of their PYP journey, it’s still about the journey as they prepare for this destination. It’s about the process, not the product. About the thinking, not the doing. About them owning their own learning, planning their own time, making their own decisions, seeking help, choosing to gather feedback, and wanting to take it to the next level. For themselves.
Not for me. Not for their parents.
It doesn’t have to be perfect… it just has to be them. True, authentic, genuine them.
And in order for it to be truly, authentically, genuinely them… I need to give them time and space (like I have all year) to make mistakes, fail, run out of time, learn, reflect and, inevitably, grow.
And most importantly, in the words of Thao Nhu, I need to trust my students.
So trust, I will.